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Two different kinds of readers

27 August 2019

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A tender mum (MrCurramba via @imgur) :

The nice reader

The naughty mummy (ANewBadlyPhotoshopped  via @imgur):

The naughty mummy


Etiquette rules

19 January 2018

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Proper etiquette for all occasions


“Do you ever have to stop and think about what fork to use after the salad arrives during a dinner party? Have you ever wondered what is expected of you when you’re a weekend guest in someone’s home? You want to do the right thing, but you’re not sure what that is.

There are more bad manners and social faux pas than ever, so it’s easy to be confused about what’s socially acceptable. Many of the correct behaviors people once considered common sense have gotten lost in the swirling wind of bad advice, outdated manners rules, and social media that makes it too easy to slip up and be rude.” (…)

Read the whole text below:


10 quick and easy manners tips (Debby Mayne)


Good manners for kids.-ten rules by Marla Walters

2 April 2016

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10 Basic Manners You Must Teach Your Kids

By Marla Walters

on 30 April 2015 WISEBREAD dot COM

I’m sorry, but it’s going to be a lot harder than you thought to teach manners to your children. You behaved at home, as a child, and then you went to college, where you likely misbehaved. Eventually, you found yourself in a relationship, and were probably very free about what you said and did. And then came the children, who are just tiny sponges. They soak up everything their parents say and regurgitate it, most often inappropriately.

Time to clean up your act.

The best way to teach manners to your children is not to immediately hand them the 18th Edition of Emily Post’s Etiquette (although I do think that’s a lovely graduation gift). They need to learn the rules below before they can read. They need to learn them from you, their parents, and you need to model these manners. Consistently.

You want your kids to be successful and get ahead in life, and they won’t be able to get through job interviews without shaking hands properly. They need to know they cannot talk on their cells at the symphony. They will need to write thank-you notes. If you don’t show them how, who will?

Below are 10 types of etiquette rules you really need to teach your children. These are not behaviors, such as not being a bully; they are the rules of a civilized society.

  1. Etiquette 101

Here we have the holy grail of beginning etiquette for children. Master these four phrases, and practice them around, and with, your kids.

“Please, may I…?”

“Thank you.”

“No, thank you.”

“Excuse me.”

  1. Do Not Interrupt

I work with a guy who interrupts anyone and everyone, all the time. Every time he does it, I think, “Your mother failed.” It is rude to not let someone finish their thought. Children are, by their nature, impatient — but they need to learn patience, which includes not interrupting. When the interruptions happen, say “Please don’t interrupt. Let me finish what I was saying.”

  1. Introductions

Making introductions is difficult for adults, let alone children. As an adult, though, isn’t it nice when someone introduces you? I have found that kids can master this, but they are going to need prompting to remember (“Ben, did you introduce your friends?”). Even the very young can handle “This is Jason, and this is Katie.”

If an adult comes to your house, your child should stop what they are doing, and come say hello. Ideally, the child should offer their hand to shake, and say “Hello, Mrs. ____.” If their friends are present, further introductions should be made by the child. When the adult leaves, the child should come and say good-bye. Many children are very shy about introductions, so be patient and keep working on it.

  1. Responding to a Polite Question

Following an introduction, or a greeting, an adult will usually attempt to talk to a child. Most of the time, the question will be “How are you?”

Respond to the adult and let them know how you are, kiddo. But then, ask the adult how they are. Here is how Uriah, age four and two doors down, handles this one:

“How are you today, Uriah?”

“I’m GREAT! I have T-ball today! Uhh, how are you? Do you want to see me hit this ball? I had CAKE today! Last week I made it to third base!”

Yes, I find him completely charming. Most children, though, I find, just ignore the adults. That’s not okay, parents. Even if your child is shy, teach them to smile and say “I am fine, thank you. How are you?”

  1. How to Behave at the Table

It is my sincere hope that your family, no matter what its makeup, sits together at least for the dinner meal. A good chore for even young children is to learn to set the table. Once seated, you may say grace, or have a family custom — but please, no cell phones or other electronic devices at the table. Use this time to reconnect as a family, and instill some basics.

Before each meal, wash your hands. Do not chew with your mouth open.

Do not interrupt another family member’s story. This is an important time for everyone to share their day.

If the child wants second helpings, this is when we use “Please pass the ___.” When the food is passed, they should say “Thank you.”

Burps happen. They should be silent, and followed by “Excuse me.” No belching contests, please.

If you have a cold or cough, sneeze or cough into your tissue, and then go dispose of the tissue and wash your hands again. If you have no tissue, sneeze into your sleeve, and then go wash.

Absolutely no picking or scratching.

When the child is done with dinner, they should say “Please, may I be excused?” and when permission is granted, they should take their plate, utensils, and napkin to the kitchen (and follow whatever cleanup rules you have).

Do not nag (“I told you a thousand times…”) at the table. Just keep correcting, or the dinner experience becomes associated with battles.

You will be really glad you taught them table manners at home before you take them to restaurants, which can be intimidating to children who have no practice with napkins, silverware, and complicated place settings.

  1. How to Behave at a Play, Concert, or Movie

Movies are a good place to start teaching your children about how to behave at a public performance. Hit the bathroom and get snacks ahead of time, and encourage them to be quiet, or whisper. Next, try a play or concert, and talk about intermissions, listening, watching quietly, and staying in your seat. Before the event, explain the usher’s job. Not okay: Gum, candy wrappers, cell phones, or kicking the seat ahead of you.

  1. Writing Thank-You Notes

Being able to compose and send a thank-you note is another skill that will serve a person all their lives. You should write them with the child until approximately age eight or nine, when they should have the ability to write their own. You may need to help them get started.

My “trick” in getting thank-yous done was to get out a nice array of stationery, cards, stickers, fun stamps, and colorful pens. I also had my address book at the ready, and mugs of cocoa and snacks. Then, we would do our notes together.

  1. How to Shake Hands

Ah, the limp handshake. It still exists, which surprises me every time I encounter it. It’s so easy to do it correctly! Here are the instructions.

Stand up. Extend your hand. Using a firm grip (not a bone-crusher), grasp the other person’s hand and grip/shake while you introduce yourself and the other person introduces him/herself. Here is a great video of some kids who have this handshake skill down!

  1. Avoiding Bad Language

It’s very simple: if you swear in front of your kids, they are going to swear, too. The problem is (and I’m Exhibit A): They will use these words at some very inappropriate times. Often, they may not know what the bad words mean, and explaining can help (they will probably be horrified).

  1. When Not to Use Electronics

This is especially hard because adult modeling is so poor. You can be a part of that change, though. Readers will probably disagree, but I don’t think electronics, or most specifically cell phones, belong at the table, movies, concerts, performances, weddings, funerals, churches, or school. I will hopefully assume you do not use your cell while driving (and that includes texting), which is simply dangerous.

I was recently at a picnic, and one of my old friends did not bring her daughter, saying “She is too much of a brat.” I remember thinking, well, that’s your fault, and what a shame, because the other children were having so much fun. Yes, teaching manners to children will try your patience, but it will ease their passage into adulthood when they master the basics.


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[just an excerpt of 5 easy points to remember]

on PDF in #mypublicfiles via



Just joking, kids!

10 December 2013

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The other day I was a bit bored at home and decided to play a trick on my students.

I am such a moodle freak that I wrote an entry in there under the headline “answer keys to the first evaluation exam of English language”. Of course, I knew that most students would love to have the answers to the exam for free, that is, with no effort. And that was it! Some of my pupils clicked on the blue link to get this:


To make things worse, I put this message “what did you expect?” and this emoticon 😉

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