Posts Tagged ‘good manners’

“The types of suit every man should own” (Fashion Beans)

24 July 2019

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Extract of the article 

“The types of suit every man should own”

by

Fashion Beans editors

“There are few guys who don’t aspire to one day own a walk-in wardrobe filled with every type of suit, but we’re often in the dark as to how to get there. For the remainder, suits are a necessary evil: an insurance policy for professional and social occasions that you want to spend the bare minimum on.” (…) 

1/the Plain Navy two-button suit

2/the Plain Grey two-button suit

3/the Dark Double-breasted suit

4/the Dinner suit

5/the Summer suit

6/the Check suit

 

continue reading:

https://www.fashionbeans.com/article/types-of-suit/

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N.B: website on classes of fabric

inarkadiabilbao.es

http://www.inarkadiabilbao.es/tela-para-ropa-tipos-y-caracteristicas-de-la-a-a-la-m/

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types of fabric

textileschool.com

https://www.textileschool.com/171/textile-fabric-types-comprehensive-list-of-textile-fabrics/

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PERSONAL NOTE:

A gentleman should own some of these suits but he should be fit and stylish.

Good manners, elegance and nobility

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Essential Etiquette For Young Men (Brett & Kate McKay) [&c]

2 February 2019

twitter: @eugenio_fouz

[Andrés Velencoso, modelo; @andresvelencoso]

Essential Etiquette for Young Men

Brett & Kate Mc Kay

“In whatever society, or in whatever part of the world, a gentleman may happen to be, he always complies externally with the spirit and usages of the place… A gentleman always possesses a certain self-respect—not indeed touching upon self-esteem, and far removed from self-conceit…Indeed a gentleman, in the highest signification of the term, is a noble animal…Employing in the regulation of his own conduct, the strictest standard of propriety, and in his expectations of that of others, the most lenient; cautious in accepting quarrel, more cautious in giving cause for it; lending to virtue the forms of courtesy, and borrowing from her the substance of sincerity; forming his opinions boldly, expressing them gracefully; in action, brave, in conference, gentle; always anxious to please, and always willing to be pleased; expecting from none what he would not be inclined to yield to all; giving interest to small things, whenever small things cannot be avoided, and gaining elevation from great, whenever great can be attained; valuing his own esteem too highly to be guilty of dishonor, and the esteem of others too considerately to be guilty of incivility; never violating decency, and respecting even the prejudices of honesty;…full of courage, but free from ostentation; without assumption, without servility; too wise to despise trifles, but too noble ever to be degraded by them; dignified but not haughty, firm but not impracticable, learned but not pedantic; to his superiors respectful, to his equals courteous; kind to his inferiors, and wishing well to all.”

–Richard Wells, Manners, Culture and Dress of the Best American Society, 1894

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Manners. Etiquette. For some men, these words don’t belong in the same breath as manliness. For them, etiquette and manners conjure up arbitrary lists of dos and don’ts, a nagging mother, or scenes of artificial formality, complete with images of bowing and scraping, the polishing of monocles, and a bunch of treacly, “How do you dos?” and “No, after yous!”

It wasn’t always so. Our forbearers saw no contradiction in being ruggedly manly and a refined gentleman. For centuries, well-bred men were trained in all the manly arts, from the skills needed to be a soldier to the proper etiquette for dinner parties. They were quintessential gentlemen—dapper in dress, polite in conduct, and yet every bit a true man.

George Washington, Theodore Roosevelt, and Robert E. Lee are some examples of men who combined gritty manliness with gentlemanly bearing. They paid attention to how they dressed, groomed, and conducted themselves and were as comfortable at a stately ball as they were on the battlefield. For these great men, having good manners did not make them less of a man, but more of one.” (…) 

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Continue reading here:

#PDF via G-Drive

https://tinyurl.com/y82bbah6

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&c

https://www.artofmanliness.com

 

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Business etiquette

https://www.artofmanliness.com/articles/being-a-gentleman-at-the-office-the-dos-and-donts-of-business-etiquette/

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Classroom etiquette

https://www.artofmanliness.com/articles/how-to-be-a-gentleman-scholar-classroom-etiquette-for-the-college-man/

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Not a very convenient reply to a rude woman… or maybe he was right

31 July 2018

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Notes for students of Ethics -Parallel Papers-Ethics-ef17.- 310817

5 September 2017

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[James Dean vía @historyinmoment]

Three packs of obligatory notes for the subject of Ethics. Each one contains texts, definitions, mottoes, rules, news and some other points of interest such as urban legends, good manners and decalogues of behaviour. I have included extracts from the Spanish Constitution of 1978, the brilliant speech of Martin Luther King, the thirty articles of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights.

See the documents linked below:

Ethics PPa first term

http://tinyurl.com/y9q4kx5f

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Ethics PPa second term

http://tinyurl.com/y7zqcgo8

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Ethics PPa third term

http://tinyurl.com/y7slagxt

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Useful handbook on Business Etiquette (Barbara Pachter)

24 June 2017

twitter: @eugenio_fouz

business woman

I have been reading a book on Business Etiquette written by Barbara Pachter (@BarbaraPachter). I came across the handbook through the internet when looking for ideas on Business English manners. I found out a PDF edition and started reading it. There are good pieces of advice on emailing, texting, making presentations, answering the phone and about dressing code as well. The book has been written for businesswomen; however a businessman or a male teacher of Business English could get relevant thoughts on etiquette (netiquette too, by the way). What´s more, anyone might learn about good manners here.

http://tinyurl.com/ybn5xcrh

The book itself makes easy the reading activity: the font size of is big enough to underline or take notes on the margin of every page.

[I got my copy printed and bound in http://www.apapel.es (@apapel_es)]

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my personal review on @goodreads

https://www.goodreads.com/review/show?id=2024542723

Good manners for kids.-ten rules by Marla Walters

2 April 2016

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woman and cat

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10 Basic Manners You Must Teach Your Kids

By Marla Walters

on 30 April 2015 WISEBREAD dot COM

I’m sorry, but it’s going to be a lot harder than you thought to teach manners to your children. You behaved at home, as a child, and then you went to college, where you likely misbehaved. Eventually, you found yourself in a relationship, and were probably very free about what you said and did. And then came the children, who are just tiny sponges. They soak up everything their parents say and regurgitate it, most often inappropriately.

Time to clean up your act.

The best way to teach manners to your children is not to immediately hand them the 18th Edition of Emily Post’s Etiquette (although I do think that’s a lovely graduation gift). They need to learn the rules below before they can read. They need to learn them from you, their parents, and you need to model these manners. Consistently.

You want your kids to be successful and get ahead in life, and they won’t be able to get through job interviews without shaking hands properly. They need to know they cannot talk on their cells at the symphony. They will need to write thank-you notes. If you don’t show them how, who will?

Below are 10 types of etiquette rules you really need to teach your children. These are not behaviors, such as not being a bully; they are the rules of a civilized society.

  1. Etiquette 101

Here we have the holy grail of beginning etiquette for children. Master these four phrases, and practice them around, and with, your kids.

“Please, may I…?”

“Thank you.”

“No, thank you.”

“Excuse me.”

  1. Do Not Interrupt

I work with a guy who interrupts anyone and everyone, all the time. Every time he does it, I think, “Your mother failed.” It is rude to not let someone finish their thought. Children are, by their nature, impatient — but they need to learn patience, which includes not interrupting. When the interruptions happen, say “Please don’t interrupt. Let me finish what I was saying.”

  1. Introductions

Making introductions is difficult for adults, let alone children. As an adult, though, isn’t it nice when someone introduces you? I have found that kids can master this, but they are going to need prompting to remember (“Ben, did you introduce your friends?”). Even the very young can handle “This is Jason, and this is Katie.”

If an adult comes to your house, your child should stop what they are doing, and come say hello. Ideally, the child should offer their hand to shake, and say “Hello, Mrs. ____.” If their friends are present, further introductions should be made by the child. When the adult leaves, the child should come and say good-bye. Many children are very shy about introductions, so be patient and keep working on it.

  1. Responding to a Polite Question

Following an introduction, or a greeting, an adult will usually attempt to talk to a child. Most of the time, the question will be “How are you?”

Respond to the adult and let them know how you are, kiddo. But then, ask the adult how they are. Here is how Uriah, age four and two doors down, handles this one:

“How are you today, Uriah?”

“I’m GREAT! I have T-ball today! Uhh, how are you? Do you want to see me hit this ball? I had CAKE today! Last week I made it to third base!”

Yes, I find him completely charming. Most children, though, I find, just ignore the adults. That’s not okay, parents. Even if your child is shy, teach them to smile and say “I am fine, thank you. How are you?”

  1. How to Behave at the Table

It is my sincere hope that your family, no matter what its makeup, sits together at least for the dinner meal. A good chore for even young children is to learn to set the table. Once seated, you may say grace, or have a family custom — but please, no cell phones or other electronic devices at the table. Use this time to reconnect as a family, and instill some basics.

Before each meal, wash your hands. Do not chew with your mouth open.

Do not interrupt another family member’s story. This is an important time for everyone to share their day.

If the child wants second helpings, this is when we use “Please pass the ___.” When the food is passed, they should say “Thank you.”

Burps happen. They should be silent, and followed by “Excuse me.” No belching contests, please.

If you have a cold or cough, sneeze or cough into your tissue, and then go dispose of the tissue and wash your hands again. If you have no tissue, sneeze into your sleeve, and then go wash.

Absolutely no picking or scratching.

When the child is done with dinner, they should say “Please, may I be excused?” and when permission is granted, they should take their plate, utensils, and napkin to the kitchen (and follow whatever cleanup rules you have).

Do not nag (“I told you a thousand times…”) at the table. Just keep correcting, or the dinner experience becomes associated with battles.

You will be really glad you taught them table manners at home before you take them to restaurants, which can be intimidating to children who have no practice with napkins, silverware, and complicated place settings.

  1. How to Behave at a Play, Concert, or Movie

Movies are a good place to start teaching your children about how to behave at a public performance. Hit the bathroom and get snacks ahead of time, and encourage them to be quiet, or whisper. Next, try a play or concert, and talk about intermissions, listening, watching quietly, and staying in your seat. Before the event, explain the usher’s job. Not okay: Gum, candy wrappers, cell phones, or kicking the seat ahead of you.

  1. Writing Thank-You Notes

Being able to compose and send a thank-you note is another skill that will serve a person all their lives. You should write them with the child until approximately age eight or nine, when they should have the ability to write their own. You may need to help them get started.

My “trick” in getting thank-yous done was to get out a nice array of stationery, cards, stickers, fun stamps, and colorful pens. I also had my address book at the ready, and mugs of cocoa and snacks. Then, we would do our notes together.

  1. How to Shake Hands

Ah, the limp handshake. It still exists, which surprises me every time I encounter it. It’s so easy to do it correctly! Here are the instructions.

Stand up. Extend your hand. Using a firm grip (not a bone-crusher), grasp the other person’s hand and grip/shake while you introduce yourself and the other person introduces him/herself. Here is a great video of some kids who have this handshake skill down!

  1. Avoiding Bad Language

It’s very simple: if you swear in front of your kids, they are going to swear, too. The problem is (and I’m Exhibit A): They will use these words at some very inappropriate times. Often, they may not know what the bad words mean, and explaining can help (they will probably be horrified).

  1. When Not to Use Electronics

This is especially hard because adult modeling is so poor. You can be a part of that change, though. Readers will probably disagree, but I don’t think electronics, or most specifically cell phones, belong at the table, movies, concerts, performances, weddings, funerals, churches, or school. I will hopefully assume you do not use your cell while driving (and that includes texting), which is simply dangerous.

I was recently at a picnic, and one of my old friends did not bring her daughter, saying “She is too much of a brat.” I remember thinking, well, that’s your fault, and what a shame, because the other children were having so much fun. Yes, teaching manners to children will try your patience, but it will ease their passage into adulthood when they master the basics.

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You can download this document

[just an excerpt of 5 easy points to remember]

on PDF in #mypublicfiles via #PDF-Archive.com

here:

https://document.li/e7XX

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Non-existent farewell

28 June 2011

twitter:@eugenio_fouz

 (Pennsylvania Coal Town, Edward Hopper)

I couldn´t believe it. I thought people were polite as a rule.

I thought people cared about good manners. But not everybody cares.

They promise you things they won´t do. These guys never say “fare thee well

 


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